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HenryMakow.com – Aug 18, 2024

When I recall my mental habit of seeking a woman as the “key” to my happiness and masculine development — I feel both duped & stupid.

Western society is a sex cult. Sexual intercourse is considered the highest experience life has to offer. Orgasm is a sacrament. No wonder we place undue importance on a “relationship.”

But, our most important relationship is with ourSelves (i.e. our best self.) When we prioritize other people, we are negating ourselves. 

“Romantic love and obsession with women is used today to destroy manhood, because the males are indoctrinated to worship the woman.” 

from Sept 2010

by Henry Makow Ph.D. 

I got 637,000,000 links just now when I googled “relationships.”

The first one, from Psychology Today, begins: “For most people, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives.”

This is our PRIMARY brainwashing, delivered by Hollywood.  The plot is always:  find love, have sex, live happily ever after. “Love” is the religion. Sex is the holy sacrament.

We are programmed to be co-dependent. Every song is a variation of “you are my sunshine” and “I can’t live without you!”

When I consider the energy I expended in this quest for “meaning”, I feel betrayed. Especially considering how stupid, deceitful and vain some of the women were.

When I recall my mental habit of seeing women as the “key” to my happiness and masculine development- I feel both duped and stupid.

I derive considerable satisfaction from my marriage.  But “most meaningful element in my life”?

No, I wouldn’t jeopardize it with such expectations.

The problem isn’t with my “relationship.”  Romantic relationships were not designed to be “the most meaningful element in our lives.”

Romance should be a small but important part of our lives. Maybe 25% for men; 50% for women. (Yes, I believe women should have more invested in love.)

WHAT ELSE IS THERE?

 

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