by Henry Makow Ph.D. — henrymakow.com (Updated from Nov. 11, 2009)
Lately I have been thinking about a really great woman I knew when I was 24. I ignored Liz because I wasn’t attracted to her sexually. She was pleasant-looking but there was no “chemistry.”
She had many of the qualities in the left-hand column below, and she liked me. But my tastes and even my ideas had been formed by PLAYBOY. Average looking women were literally invisible.
I had been brainwashed by my cult-ure to believe that “sexual attraction” is 90% of what male-female relationships are all about.
I believed marriages were based on sexual attraction. You had to live together before marriage to make sure you were “sexually compatible.” Sex was the Holy Grail.
I was thinking about Liz lately, wondering what her life has been like. Wondering what my life would have been like had I responded to her overture. It must be hard for really great women to be ignored just because they aren’t “hot.” I have discovered that love makes all women beautiful.
I was thinking about Liz because I am 66 and now realize that sex is a smaller part of a good marriage, say 30%.
What if I knew this back then? I wouldn’t have had three failed marriages by the age of 50, two largely based on sexual attraction.
I am happily married now but how different my life might have been. I might have had a family.
Men, Design your perfect “10”