Thoughts on Religion and Love
Henry Makow Ph.D. – September 3, 2009
"Know them by their fruits," Jesus said.
I'm not interested in the dogma. I judge a "faith" by the people who espouse it. Are they good, industrious and honest? Are they happy and generous? Do they have strong marriages and families? Do they care about others? Are they independent? Do they enjoy life? Are they interesting or boring?
A man's religion is his day. How does he spend it? Where are his thoughts? Where does he devote his energy?
On this basis ,I would not recommend myself. My concerns are too mundane. Like most people, I try to wring my happiness from the world. Recognition here. Book sales there. You know what I mean.
At least, I'm not on Facebook or Twitter, waiting for someone to "friend" me or write on my wall. We need to shut out the world and enjoy ourselves, our family and close friends. We can't make our happiness dependent on the progress of mankind, which is headed in the wrong direction.
I get a kick from atheists and agnostics who reject God. That's like saying they don't believe in oxygen. They have this storybook image of God and they can see through it.
These atheists have a strong sense of Absolute Truth, Goodness and Justice. What do they think God is? "God is a Spirit and we must worship Him in Spirit and in Truth," (John 4:24) "Be ye therefore perfect, as your Father which is in heaven is perfect," (Mathew 5:48)
Atheists blame God for evil. Man was put here to fulfill God's purpose, as His agent. If we fail, we have only ourselves to blame.
How do we know that God exists? How do we know that food exists? We get hungry. We have souls as well as stomachs. Our souls crave Perfection. Deny our spiritual needs (i.e. Divine Purpose, Truth, Beauty, Order, Justice and Love), and we die inwardly. (Look around.)
A religion satisfies our hunger for Love, Order and Purpose. I don't care what the particular storyline is any more than I care if I have spaghetti or salmon for supper. The religion satisfies the spiritual hunger. It makes us better, happier, stronger. It helps us sleep at night and face the new day.
Don't kid yourself. Everyone has a God. Power. Money. Sex or God. Some religions work better than others. Let's look at what creates the best people, what is truest and has not been subverted.
Society seems to suffer from a collective autism, Asperger Syndrome. I am amazed at the number of people who are unable to consider the wishes or basic interests of the person they are talking to or dealing with. They seem so starved for love and attention that they inflict themselves on other people or use them. Considering others is the first baby step of spiritual evolution.
Society seems fixated on physical perfection and oblivious to moral perfection, and to style, charm, humor and refined behavior.
God is Love. The surrogate religion of modern society is romantic love. Sex is the holy sacrament. How many songs and movies are devoted to this bogus religion? We are obsessed with romantic love because we dont have Divine love. That is because we don't serve God (i.e. spiritual ideals.)
Religio-- to go within. To know and obey God.
We are all in love with Perfection: God. But we sublimate it to other people. Very few people are perfect and worthy of this "love." We get disappointed and break up. Mature love is really based on mutual dependence not idealization. Idealization weakens and makes you vulnerable. You become love's slave.
Young people have been psychologically neutered and have trouble finding mates. Males and females are too much alike. They are friends. Friends come and go.
Marriage requires an act of love (i.e. sacrifice) from a woman. She gives a man her power because she loves (trusts her life to) him. He responds by giving her his power in the form of love and protection. Marriage is the foundation of the family.
Young women have been re-engineered to distrust men, and seek power ( deceptively called "equality" ) not male love. Thus they cannot bond permanently. Young women pawn their ephemeral beauty without demanding and getting love and security in return. Many will miss their opportunity.
We condemn the "loveless marriage." Playing a role and honoring commitment have received a bad rap. At least they don't depend on what side of the bed you got up on, or who struck your fancy on the way to work.
Henry Makow, Ph.D. is the inventor of the board game Scruples and the author of "A Long Way to go for a Date." His past articles on Feminism and the New World Order can be found on his web site www.savethemales.ca He enjoys receiving comments at email@example.com
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