Henry Makow Ph.D. — henrymakow.com Jan 14, 2014 (from July 10, 2012)
A reader, Mark, asked this question recently.
“There’s a gay guy at my work who’s totally obnoxious, self-centered, and spiteful, and yet all the female employees adore him. They’re hover around him all day like groupies, hanging on his every word and laughing at his jokes.”
“Are they just too stupid to realize he’s a jerk, or are women so insecure in the company of real men that they prefer the emasculated ones? This seems to be the case everywhere.”
Before I give my opinion, let’s look at some of the explanations I found online.
1. Gay men are better friends: “Women love the fit, stylish, sensitive, sarcastic and supportive gay man. He looks good, listens to her and sympathizes. He is loyal to her (just not to his gay lover.) They are both superficial and get on like a house on fire.
2. Gay men are more fun! As one woman said, “All the out gay guys I have ever known are just plain fun to be around. They are sensitive, intelligent, creative, wonderful people, usually with a fabulous sense of style–everything a woman wants in a man…”
3. No pressure to have sex. Another woman said, “Straight women are tired of loser straight men always hitting on them and wanting to get into their jeans. Women know that this isn’t an issue with a gay man, so they are free to let down their guard and enjoy themselves with guys who don’t have an ulterior motive, or female genitalia on their minds.”
4. Attracted to gay male relationships. They are “equal” and the sex is hot: In the words of another woman, “the idea of two guys kissing makes me feel all warm n fuzzy inside! I just think its so genuine and attractive. And so equal. With girl/guy couples there’s always that role thing going, and I always think the guy could easily end up being a ‘traditional’ male (i.e. NOT good!) but with gay guys they’re so equal and lovey! They show their emotions and that’s attractive in a man (though, I don’t want floods of tears or anything!)
(In fact, gay male relationships are not equal, but mimic heterosexual relationships where the one playing the male role is dominant.)
According to a gay pop culture web site survey, half of the 2,000 women who answered found male homosexual relationships to be a “turn on.”
Thirty-three percent like gay pairings because they “really enjoy love stories, no matter the gender of the pairing,” while six percent say “It’s unattainable for me and I love the fantasy.”
It claims there are an unbelievable 117,000 websites about homosexual male relationships that cater to straight women.
Many women are simply aroused by the idea of two men together. Cheri told us: “I don’t have any political reasons for enjoying gay couples on TV, movies and in books. I just like watching good-looking men, and the more the better.”
WHY WOMEN LOVE GAY MEN