Mothers with Careers are Stressed Out

Erin Drake – April 1, 2013

A recent Huffington Post article implies that stress is here to stay for women. Women are more stressed in the workplace because they are more conflicted about their role. But they are told they have no alternative. A “life coach” recounts:
“One [female] client kept a [policy statement] that spelled out which work demands took precedent over dinner with her kids. Another client had a mantra at the ready when she felt obliged to stay at work for financial reasons — “Sometimes ‘being there’ for my kids means being at work.”
The article continues, “…stress is here to stay.”
Do you hear that ladies? And be sure to use the above New World Order mantra to suppress that aching, nagging feeling that you should actually be with your kids!   Very helpful message from the Huffington Post.
Not only am I tired of this propaganda, I am very saddened and infuriated because it has seeped into my life in several ways.  It affects my relationships to the core, but most Americans are not awake to realize the source of this tension.
My husband and I are in our thirties.  We have several friends with small children, in which both parents work.  Financially, they could comfortably afford for one parent to stay home, but this is not their choice.
When we try to visit with them, say, on a Saturday, it is insanity.  The parents are stressed and fighting with one another, because they’ve been working full-time all week and trying to raise kids in their spare time.
During a recent visit with our friends Dave and Sharon, Dave confided that Saturday is “intensified” and “stressful” .  The kids are all wound up because they are so thrilled to finally get time with their parents.  As Dave chatted with me, Sharon, an attorney, nuked microwave meals for the kids. I wonder who, in their situation, would have time to prepare a home-cooked meal?
Sharon has told me that their nanny makes more money than she does.  So my husband and I  wonder, why she doesn’t just stay home?  We speculate it has to do with needing to work towards career advancement to pay back a hefty student loan.


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