Betty Friedan: The Making of a Woman Hater

In the 1950′s, the founder of modern feminism had a serious inferiority complex.

At parties she would introduce herself: “I’m Betty Friedan — and I graduated Summa Cum Laude from Smith.”

Friedan’s mother had made her feel inadequate as a female. She compensated by rejecting femininity and convincing women to adopt the male role instead.

In her candid autobiography, “My Life So Far” (2000) Friedan (born, Betty Naomi Goldstein) says that no matter what she did, her mother made her feel “messy, clumsy, inadequate, bad, naughty, ugly.” (26)

Friedan spent years in psychoanalysis “talking endlessly about how I hated my mother and how she had killed my father.” (121) “All mothers should be drowned at birth,” she used to say in her 20′s. (131)

Her mother, Miriam Horowitz Goldstein was the spoiled daughter of a doctor who at 20 made a loveless marriage to “an older Jewish businessman” a jeweler almost twice her age. She was ashamed he had “no formal American education and a heavy Jewish accent.” He could do nothing right either. (17)

But Betty Friedan, instead of seeing that her parent’s marriage was the problem, chose to blame the traditional feminine role. She attributed her mother’s unloving behavior to her lack of a satisfying career.

Also ostracized by her classmates, Friedan vowed that “they may not like me” but one day “they are going to have to look up to me.” (25)

Fame and fortune came her way with her book “The Feminine Mystique,” (1963)which devalued the traditional feminine role and stripped women of their “mystique.”

Women don’t mind sacrificing if they are appreciated. Husband and children need the gracious love of a beautiful young wife or mother. This nurturing feminine charm was a woman’s “mystique.”

In her book, Friedan said family-oriented women had no identity of their own. She also said family was “a comfortable concentration camp” because women’s tasks lacked “opportunities for self expression and advancement.”

Friedan convinced women to deny their natural identity as wife and mother and seek it from jobs and employers.

In other words, she projected her trauma over lack-of-mother-love on motherhood, at incalculable cost to women and society.

FRIEDAN’S MARRIAGE

In her autobiography, Friedan portrays herself as a devoted housewife who wanted to avoid her own mother’s mistakes. But she made the error of seeking the added aura of being “a battered wife.”

Her former husband, Carl Friedan, started a web site (now discontinued) to give his side of the story. He said she was unstable and often attacked him. Her bruises were due to his self-defense. His injuries were worse. He even cites a police report as proof. In another case, he writes: [WARNING FOUL LANGUAGE]

” Quite vivid in my mind is a midnight in about 1967 – a year or so before Betty and I separated for good. We were living at our Dakota apartment then – Betty disagreed with something I said (that’s all it took), went into one of her raging uncontrollable fits, screaming, her face twisted in hate and insane anger, “You fucking no good prick you, you no-good bastard, you fucking bastard, ” meanwhile sprinting into the kitchen. Back she came straight at me brandishing two large kitchen knives. “You fucking Goddamn sonuvabitch, I’m going to cut your fucking cock off – your big cock it doesn’t mean a thing to me.” At this, I calmly picked up a kitchen chair, nailed her to the wall like a lion-tamer and took the knives away. And that was just a minor incident during that period when her explosive personality was further inflamed by amphetamines she was taking for weight loss, reinforced by alcohol.”
http://fathersforlife.org/feminism/truth_a_la_friedan.htm

Carl Friedan, who had an advertising agency told the NY Post that Betty’s image as a typical housewife was a ruse:

“She didn’t know what I was doing,” he claimed. “I won prizes and had full-page ads in all the New York papers. She didn’t care.”

According to Carl, Betty was no stay-at-home mom.

“We had a full-time maid during our entire [19-year] marriage. That’s who took care of the [three] kids, cooked – everything,” he said. “I would say as a housewife, on a scale of 0 to 10, she was a 2.”

Carl Friedan’s memories are not motivated by politics. He is proud of his ex-wife’s accomplishments:

“She changed the course of history almost single-handedly. It took a driven, super-aggressive, egocentric, almost lunatic dynamo to rock the world the way she did. Unfortunately, she was that same person at home, where that kind of conduct doesn’t work. She simply never understood this.”
http://christianparty.net/friedan.htm

OTHER SOURCES: FRIEDAN’S “JUDAISM” AND COMMUNISM

When Betty was preparing for her “Bat Mitzvah” (like a Confirmation) at age 13, she confessed to her Reform rabbi that she did not believe in God.

Instead of giving his young ward a sense of what God is, this impostor said: “All right, but keep it to yourself until after confirmation.” (22)

Friedan’s Judaism amounts to a sense that “I have to use my life to make the world better, have to protest, step off the sidewalk and march against injustice.” Because she was rejected as a Jew by the rich country club set in her hometown of Peoria, she “now identified with the working class, also oppressed by the masters of the universe…”(71)

People like Friedan prefer to “change the world” than heal themselves. They tend to do very well by “doing good.” While writing this book, she received a one- million-dollar grant from the Ford Foundation. Aren’t they the “masters of the universe?” The Friedans of this world just want to be members of this club.

Doesn’t it occur to these socialists, feminists and communists that if they were really a threat to the establishment, they wouldn’t be hauling in $120,000 salaries as full professors? Don’t they realize they are brainwashing the young, destabilizing society and setting the stage for a totalitarian state?

Friedan was a lifelong Communist. In the book, she tries to distance herself from Communism, describing it in terms of youthful idealism. We’ll never know if she was a conscious agent or a dupe. She knew Kurt Lewin, who had been in charge of social engineering at Tavistock. (45)

The elite media hyped Friedan to the heavens because the Lucifer-loving bankers wanted women to have jobs instead of families. It’s possible Friedan was perfectly sincere. With her history she would want to destroy what she didn’t have, the “Feminine Mystique.” She poisoned the well of femininity and sent the family into a death spiral. Women traded sun dresses for overalls and business suits.

In our upside-down world, failures and crazies become prophets.

See also my “Betty Friedan: Mommie was a Commie”

Henry Makow Ph.D. is the inventor of the game Scruples and author of “A Long Way to go for a Date.” His articles exposing fe-manism and the New World Order can be found at his web site www.savethemales.ca He enjoys receiving comments, some of which he posts on his site using first names only. hmakow@gmail.com