Henry Makow – henrymakow.com March 6, 2012, revised from March 2011
“In your essay “Dumping my Dream Girl” you state that women should be helpmates, not soul mates.
As a divorced guy, this directly concerns my inner dilemma, namely that by choosing any one woman to be with, I am automatically excluding all the millions of others. I am haunted by the idea that if I commit to any one woman, then what will I do some time in the future if I meet someone who is more “right” for me? I don’t take commitment lightly and I really do try to be honest so I guess I would then just live with the knowledge that I’m not with the best person possible. Having been divorced twice already does not give me much confidence in my ability to choose an appropriate partner….
I would be interested to hear any feedback you can give on this. I have dated a lady for several years who would like relationship to be much closer. She has many of the qualities described in the 13 virtues of a Christian woman, but I don’t know if we will be able to be happy together.