Real Woman Describes Her “Arranged Marriage”

henrymakow.com — Dec 5, 2017

sexual attraction is fleetingEmily, 26, author of A Conservative Woman Speaks Out About Sex,” describes her marriage as “arranged.” By that, she means it was not motivated by sexual attraction but rather by common goals and compatibility.
Emily loved her mother and always wanted to become a mom. No wonder Satanists are trying to destroy gender & the nuclear family. Her first-grade teacher told her that a mother is not “a real thing to be.”
“Arranged marriage was not lust driven. Not driven by feelings whatsoever. It was based on wanting the same things in life and being compatible, so arranging to get married right off the bat, without ever having a dating phase.”

by Emily — (henrymakow.com)

When I met my husband, I was not looking to marry as I did not think anyone would want a woman like me, who will most likely not have a job until children are older, if at all. (I felt somewhat ashamed at the thought of ever asking a man to make that much of a sacrifice.)
Thus, I was not looking to please someone so that made me more straightforward about what I am about. We both found that we had beliefs that were compatible; once we realized that we were both surprised. Then started talking about what we should do about it; so we both brought up marriage and discussed the soonest and the best time to get married.
We never “dated.” Our marriage was arranged. This used to be more common even within the last 100 years or so, and should not be the taboo that it now is.
Its funny, the word “arranged marriage” is seen as an extremely oppressive and negative thing. But I believe no matter if it is arranged or not, marriage should never be planned on lust or looks and without certain things being discussed first.  Many people walk into marriage sleepwalking. People are scared of responsibility or scared to bring it up. I was scared of bringing it up but am happy I did. Arranged marriages usually mean what needs to be spoken about gets spoken about before marriage.
It’s also interesting because love used to mean a totally different thing that it does now. It used to mean sacrifice, responsibility, and be grounded in common sense. Now it means “lust” and “me me me” and a man’s wicked heart leading him astray. True love is sacrificing and not selfish.
Arranged marriage was not lust driven. Not driven by feelings whatsoever. It was based on wanting the same things in life and being compatible, so arranging to get married right off the bat, without ever having a dating phase.
It was more intentional than randomly meeting someone and somehow ending up with them because of feelings, without discussing what we wanted or what we are about.
This is what people would have done in the past, found someone based on compatibility and got married soon after. Without all the modern ideas “romance” and trying to find someone that infatuates us and without a prolonged period of living with someone without being married, and without having a massive “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” stage or without a huge dating stage. As basically everyone used to have the idea that they would get married, so they didn’t waste huge parts of their life randomly ending up in unintentional relationships with no direction or intention.
My husband thought he would not ever end up with children which he was sad about but did not dwell on. He was more sad about not finding a wife, he wanted a wife more than he wanted children, which I think is normal for a man as they do not get the same maternal urges and nurturing feelings a woman experiences.

EMBITTERED TEACHER 

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