henrymakow.com — July 1, 2016
by A.K. Kiesling (a woman) — Real Men are Rough Around the Edges
Just as women have their hot-button issues with single men, so too have men with women–namely that Christian women… “expect too much” of men and have ridiculously high standards, spiritually speaking.
As one man lamented in response to my online survey, “Lower your standards. I’m not the Apostle Paul! If I don’t look like an evangelical, smell like an evangelical, have unattainable character and charisma, spend all my free time at church, have all my issues settled, have all my prayers answered, know Scripture inside out, love children … good grief!”
I could picture him throwing up his hands in defeat….
“Christian women are just plain too picky, especially about finding a man who’s spiritual enough,” said another man. “If they find themselves being pursued by a guy they genuinely think is a believer, whom they find reasonably attractive, and who they think would make a decent husband, they should just marry him. Instead, all the women … seem to be holding out for some super-spiritual guy who wants to be an overseas missionary in a Third World country, and whom they feel some kind of amazing ‘click’ or ‘chemistry’ with.”
In defense of the single Christian women I know, most have very realistic spiritual expectations of the men they date and hope to marry. Yes, they long to find someone who shares their faith, but they know that men are humans too–fallible creatures who mess up sometimes and need grace as much as we do.
If anything, the women I know err on the side of giving too much latitude to men, sometimes blurring the lines between someone who “believes in God” and a real believer. But that’s not what showed up in the responses from men who took my survey. Quite a few vented their frustration about too-high standards.
“Christian women have been fed a lot of misinformation about what actual men are like,” writes one disgruntled man. “Reality check: there are no white knights or heroes out there. We can’t rescue you, sorry. And the ‘Jesus is my boyfriend’ thing is a little weird. I am not saying you should lower your expectations. Rather, you need to readjust them. Just as many men need to realize that actual women are not like the airbrushed porn stars of their fantasies. I find that I enjoy the company of non-Christian women far more than that of most Christian women. I just don’t think they have bought into the popular tripe about what a man is supposed to be. Real men are rough around the edges.”
TURNING CHRISTIAN MEN INTO WIMPS?