henrymakow.com — — April 1, 2018
A woman expresses love in terms of surrender, i.e. trust. She empowers her husband by accepting his leadership, and by believing in him.
Women exchange power for love. They want to be dominated by their husband’s love.
(Disclaimer – There is more than one way to find happiness. I am not trying to impose this template but rather to say that it has worked for centuries. This is why it is being eroded by the usual suspects.)
Possession is Part of Marriage — (Revised from Dec. 2009)
by Henry Makow Ph.D.
My wife recently asked me why I loved her.
Rather than enumerate her good qualities, I answered honestly: “Because you belong to me.”
At the risk of being politically incorrect, many men do not seek great beauty, brains or sex, but the simple feeling of “possessing” a woman. In other words, what they seek is a degree of ownership or power. This is part of masculine identity.
And many women have the complementary desire, to totally “belong” to their husband. Feminine identity.
In a blog post, Joseph William, in his thirties, claims he has slept with 100 women and nearly all of them wanted to be dominated in bed. They wanted the man to take charge. This has a general application. Women want men to take the initiative. They indicate interest by their acquiescence or rejection.
The essence of heterosexuality is the exchange of female power for male power expressed as love. This is the heterosexual contract. If a woman is not submissive or a man unloving, the contract has been broken, and they must consider separation.
William remarks that #MeToo has thrown a spanner into this dynamic. Men and women now are walking on eggshells.
When a woman surrenders to her husband, she gives him the power to grant her wishes, or not. He does not exploit, control or dominate. He respects her individuality and freedom.
He wants her to want to be his.
He consults and nurtures. He makes the final decision. Every family needs a head. A creature with two heads is a monster.