Possession is Part of Marriage

Henry Makow Ph.D. — henrymakow.com Dec 28, 2015 (revised from Dec 2009)

first-posMy wife recently asked me why I loved her. Instead of enumerating her good qualities, I simply answered honestly: “Because you belong to me. “
At the risk of being politically incorrect, many men do not seek great beauty, brains or sex, but the simple feeling of “possessing” a woman. In other words, what they seek is a degree of ownership or power. This affirms their masculinity.
And many women have the complementary craving, to totally “belong” to their husband.
This is the key to intimacy, how two people become one. When a man earns a woman’s love, she entrusts herself to him. And of course, he aspires to be worthy of this responsibility.
Conversely, if a woman foolishly gives herself to the wrong man, she bears the responsibility.
As I have said: Men want power. Women want love. Heterosexual marriage is an exchange of the two. Sex is the symbol of this exclusive bond.
Thus, a woman empowers her husband by accepting his leadership. Men and women were designed to complement each other, not to compete or fight. Most marriages break up due to a struggle for power.
Possession is a practical necessity. A man needs to “own the womb” to ensure his wife conceives his child and not another man’s. A woman wants to rear a child that expresses her love for her husband. Sometimes the child is ‘a little version’ of him.
Marriage is based on the exchange of feminine worldly power for masculine power expressed as love. Of course, women retain other forms of power, i.e. aesthetic, moral, emotional, intellectual etc.

WORLDLY POWER: TOTAL SURRENDER = TOTAL LOVE

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