Men Who Get Women

Like a Zen Koan, men who get women don’t need them and don’t want them. They aren’t pretending. They don’t want them and they don’t need them.

Test this formula in reverse. Men who need women are repulsive to women. Ultimately, women don’t want to be idealized. They want to be seen and loved for whom they really are.

Thousands of dating services are based on the unthinking assumption that a relationship is a good thing. These days, more often than not, it can be a liability.
My wisdom has come too late to help me. In spite of being bright and relatively successful, I squandered my romantic life as the poster boy for needy. I was programmed by the mass media and education to regard sex and love, especially sex, as the sin qua non for my personal development. I was taught that these were the highest experiences life had to offer. In other words, I was inducted into an ersatz religion which revolved around …. women.


Popular occulture programmed me for failure and arrested development. It programmed me to idealize attractive women, to worship the “goddess” within, to “need” them to validate me. At the same time, women were programmed to think they were a lot better or more unique than they really were.

Attractive women were rarely portrayed in a negative light in movies or TV. On the contrary, the rule was sex appeal = moral superiority. (If an unattractive person is cast, the chances are s/he will be a bad guy.) No wonder I pursued chimeras. No wonder my marriages were built on delusions.

Let’s see this in cosmic context: the modern world is not built on an attempt to realize the intentions of the mysterious Force that created the universe. It is not based on discerning the inherent natural and moral laws that ensure our healthy development. Rather modern society is dedicated to fulfilling the ambition and greed of a tiny cabal of psychopaths. It is based on cheating God and man with hype and deception. A highly organized Satanic power, the Illuminati, want us to forget any notions of Purpose and Design. They want to demoralize, degrade, and colonize us. This begins by stunting our development.

They use sex to distract people from seeing them. Sex appeal is a function of reproductive assets. Instead of a short life-stage concerned with mating and procreation, the Illuminati have turned sex into a lifelong obsession. This is designed to make us stupid. Have you seen the commercials for erectile dysfunction? (These drugs aren’t meant to be used by everyone? wink wink.) The people in the commercials have dropped out or have lost control of their lives. They are so busy copulating that they’ve burned the turkey, flooded the house and neglected their dog, who needs to pee. (Here it is.)

Judging from MTV, the younger generation, is totally obsessed with short term sexual encounters. “I’m attracted to you.” “I don’t know what I want.” One woman has bedded 200 men she met on the net. She’ll never be able to commit to one man. The younger generation has been reduced to the level of fruit flies, barely able to think.

Most sexual perversion stems from separating sex from procreation, (love and marriage) and making it an end in itself. The trend toward promiscuity and the breakdown of the family unit, portrayed as “progress” was planned by the Illuminati decades ago. In Aldous Huxley’s novel Brave New World (1932) monogamy is a selfish perversion. Bonding is a crime. The words “mother” and “father” are obscenities. Life begins on an assembly line that starts with the fertilization of conscripted eggs. Babies are brainwashed for 12 years, by endless repetition of state-approved axioms. This is the world we are entering as the Illuminati take away our toys but leave us the pills, Viagra-Prozac-Soma; we are zombies with six-hour erections.


“So long as the love, even the smallest, of man toward woman is not destroyed, so long is his mind in bondage as the calf that drinks milk is to his mother.” –Buddha

When I was young and full of religious zeal, I considered becoming a monk. I decided against it because I would be like a hamburger cooked on only one side. As long as I craved feminine love and sex, I wasn’t ready. But now I’m 59, happily married after three unsuccessful marriages. Having put in countless hours of lovemaking and studying the female and her form, I can say with confidence that sex and romance are mostly a matter of hormones. Men don’t need women to fulfill themselves spiritually. They only need them to realize they don’t need them.

Love for me is the feeling that grows over time when a man and woman can count on each other for companionship, understanding and support. The other kind of love is worship, and that is reserved for God alone.

Fulfillment for a man comes from discovering what he was born to do, and doing it. God has given every man a mission. A man becomes a man when he finally believes in himself, and doesn’t put any man or woman above him. These men who don’t need women, except to help them fulfill their mission. These are the real men real women want.

Note: My other conclusions about social engineering, hetero sex and love can be found in my book, “Cruel Hoax: Feminism and the New World Order.”

Henry Makow Ph.D. is the author of “Illuminati-The Cult that Hijacked the World.” ( His articles can be found at his web site He enjoys receiving your comments, some of which he posts on his site using first names only.

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